After one month of being a mother to baby Aria, Rachie shares what are the "die die must have" essentials for a newborn and new mom.

Motherhood is a totally new thing to me and having to deal with it on my own with no baby daddy to help me carry the shopping items, online shopping is my best bet. Little did I know there’s just so much stuff to prepare for the arrival of a newborn. How did our ancestors do it last time? My maternal grandmother had 10 children with no epidural and they lived (or squeezed) in a two room HDB flat.

I found this Baby Checklist below by Tammy Tay to be very informative. You need these basic items to prepare for the arrival of the baby (I think the phrase is called “nesting”). As I was busy working to earn more milk powder money for my baby, I only started nesting really late, almost two weeks before my delivery. My baby cot only arrived one month after the baby is born so it is important you prepare adequately before the baby arrives. I was frantically ordering more washcloth in the middle of the night because who knew 6 washcloth is not enough for one day! My baby actually has more laundry than me and uses a special baby detergent.

Amazon

I love Amazon! There is free international shipping above US$125. They call it the Free AmazonGlobal Saver Shipping. I don’t know about you but shopping in retail stores in Singapore is expensive to me as it is so much cheaper online, especially in the U.S. If I could save every penny, I would! It’s not like I’m buying something from an unknown website like buying milk powder from China. I’m buying from the largest Internet-based retailed in U.S. These are some of the items that I have ordered and it was delivered to my doorstep in awesome condition and Aria is enjoying them right now.

1. Carter’s Flannel Receiving Blankets
2. Gerber Washcloth
3. Medela Pump in Style Advanced Breast Pump Backpack
4. Philips Avent BPA Free Natural Essentials Gift Set
5. Bumbo Multi Seat
6. Fisher-Price Precious Planet 2-in-1 Projection Mobile
7. Clevamama ClevaCushion Nursing Pillow
8. SwaddleDesigns Muslin Swaddle Blanket

iHerb

I have always been an avid shopper of iHerb. It’s my go to place for supplements. When I was pregnant, I got my prenatal supplements there. I wrote about buying pregnancy essentials on Paleo Bunny before. It is relatively cheaper than Singapore’s pharmacies like GNC and the best thing is there’s free international shipping to Singapore if you spend above US$40. Even if it’s a small order, the shipping via Speedpost is only US$4 up to 6.35KG. Little did I know that after delivering a baby, they have so many baby stuff that is cheaper than places that sells the exact same item like Kiddy Palace, Spring Maternity or Mothercare, I started ordering even more stuff. Here are some stuff on my check out list.

1. Earth Mama Angel Baby Organic Milkmaid Tea
2. Everything from Munchkin, like the High Capacity Drying Rack, Liquid Medicine Dispenser and Cleaning Brush Set
3. BabyGanic Foaming Dish and Bottle Soap
4. Summer Infant Health and Grooming Kit
5. Clean Well Hand Natural Sanitiser Spray
6. Baby Laundry Detergent from ATTITUDE

Save up to $10 off your first iHerb.com purchase, if you use “FMJ133” during check out.

Red Mart

After delivering a baby, the last thing you want to do is carry heavy stuff. You need all the rest you can. Instead of heading down to the nearest supermarket, you can have your groceries sent to your home. The price is competitive or if not even better than compared to the local supermarket. Redmart offers $10 discount off your first order and free delivery above $30. I have purchased my baby’s diapers, cartons of soft drinks for the guests that visit me during the confinement and even fresh fruits. The delivery man was very helpful and help me to place them at the kitchen as I was lulling my baby to sleep. I have converted my mom as the prices are even cheaper than the Mama shop beside my HDB block.

Confinement Food

You are what you eat. If you hired a confinement lady (the market rate is $2500 to $3500) then that’s great. She can help you take care of the baby and prepare your meals. However, if you do have your parents or parent-in-law taking care of you and the baby or you are simply on a budget like me, you can just order confinement meal delivery. After searching around forums and reading reviews, I chose Natal Essentials and The Natal Kitchen for my confinement food. I had Natal Essentials for my daily lunch and I really like their soup, it is full of wholesome ingredients. The portions are enough for two person to eat. I would share the meal with my mother. You can view their menu here.

For The Natal Kitchen, I chanced upon it after reading Joanne Marie’s review and ordered The Natal Kitchen for dinner. I had requested for brown rice because I wanted to eat cleaner and they have very kindly acceded to my request. The food was very easy to heat up as it came in a bento box and every friday, there was dessert! The Natal Kitchen’s menu had offered a different variety which was what I liked. I had liaised with Lynda from The Natal Kitchen and she was so nice about some last minute cancellation such as the day I had to stay one more day in the hospital due to Aria’s jaundice or when I admitted back to the hospital for Post Natal Depression. She was really understanding and even though we only spoke via email, I even got a gift with baby essentials from Lynda and Eric with a personalised handwritten card. There was once the delivery man gave me white rice instead of brown rice and Lynda actually messaged me to inform me and apologise but I had no qualms about it. In fact, I hadn’t had time to realise it. That’s what good service is all about, especially during this trying period with a newborn, you wouldn’t want any hiccups that would cause frustration to a new mom.

If you order in advance like one month before your delivery, there is an early bird discount for Natal Essentials while for The Natal Kitchen, you can check out their promotions here. I haven’t been able to take a photo of the food as I’ll usually be ravenous after feeding the baby first. But if you search online, there are blog reviews.

Part Time Helper

Having a new addition to the family can take some time to adapt to. You need to attend to this little one 24/7 while coping with changes with your hormones. You and your family need all the sleep you need. Hence, you can always hire help to clean up the house while you take your rest. I would get a part time helper to clean up my house once a week. Who knew the amount of dust that can accumulate in one week. It’s really bad for the baby and yourself. You can engage Helpling, a home cleaning service and your home would be spick and span within a few hours.

Family

Last but not least, it is important that you have the support of your friends and family. I’m grateful for my friends and family who have been there for me throughout my pregnancy and the past month since my baby arrived into this world.

Meet my Family. We may not have it all together but together we have it all.